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Time to Write

Things are changing. They are always changing. Every moment when I get into the rhythm of “I got this” life happens and I have to learn to dance to a different beet and sometimes life doesn’t even provide me with the music to dance to and I sort of have to be super creative. Now is one of those moments where there is music but it the station keeps getting changed a lot and I have learned to just roll with it. Funny thing is that it keeps mixing my favorite hip hop station with my least favorite techno station and I have NO idea how to dance to techno. But even my favorite Hip Hop station is throwing me curve balls that I can manage and they are not horrible but throw me off beet. Thankfully there is more Hip Hop than Techno.

So here it is. Remember when we purchased the house the summer of 2016? The 1978 monster of a house that was frozen in time in 1978. There was shag carpet everywhere. Even in the bathrooms. There was carpet in the kitchen. Yep you read that right. IN THE KITCHEN!!! We knew that was not going to fly with 4 young boys, a dog and 2 cats. So we ripped out ALL the carpet except in the formal living and dining room which looked newer than the rest. But Ya’ll the carpet in there is cream colored and that is where I have the boys fenced off when I need to finish dishes, laundry, cook dinner or what have you and the dining room is the play room at the moment and the formal living is the game room with the ugliest pealing pleather couch that you could think of. We stalled out of updating the house about 7 months ago. Getting all of this done with 4 kids, a dog and 2 cats in tow on top of homework, school pick up, mountains of laundry, all the meals and all the normal stuff we have going on just wasn’t happening. One of our investments did well and we suddenly had the money to pay someone else to do the work and it was like a light shown down from the heavens. This is where I spend most of my time. In this house and we have had nasty concrete floors for over a year. The toilets and everything in the bathrooms is an ugly beige that makes me want to stab myself in the eye. But we have a great friend that does AMAZING work and was willing to take us on as clients and I am so excited to see what he will do for our house. Hopefully by the end of February I will have the house of my dreams. Before then we ran into some snags.

We found bats in the attic Bye Bye $1170 for removal and clean up

We hired a structural engineer because of some uneven floors and wanted the foundation to be fixed before we put new hardwood floors on. We need piers and foam to stabilize the foundation. Bye Bye $10,000

We needed some trees trimmed and removed from our property and the rental property. Bye Bye $2400

This all before we even start on the whole house remodel. The new appliances needed and the furniture that we need after that is done. We never fully moved into this house because it was never finished. The attic above the garage (that doesn’t have bats) is still full of our stuff that I never moved in because we had so much left to do. Also we moved from a 1500 sq ft house to a 3390 sq ft house. We still have whole rooms that we don’t use at all because they really aren’t usable because there is just subflooring.

As I was dealing with all the contractors (I’ve already been stood up 2 times and we haven’t even started on real renovations) I get a call from my 3rd boy’s principle. It is that call that no parent wants to hear. “You need to come pick up your preKer because he has been violent towards another child and has left marks on him.” I was in complete shock and disbelief. He is stubborn and sneaky and a hand full at home but never would I have imagined that he would be violent towards another child on purpose. I left a note on the door that I would be back in a few minutes for the contractors and speed off to school. Ashamed of my sons behavior. When I asked him why he did it he told me that he wanted to come home and this is the only way he gets to go home. It was one of my few days where I get to get stuff done without having small children under foot. My youngest (who is almost 2 and throws the greatest tantrums ever at the moment) was at his little preschool and I was trying to pack as much into my window as I could. Alex, my #3, got suspended for the rest of the week. He thought he won the lottery and got to stay home. I took away screens, I took away games, but honestly there is little I could do to make staying home with me less great. He hates school. Says his teacher doesn’t like him and even though I have asked for a change, written emails and showed up to meetings and other things nothing but a Behavioral plan has been done for him. The child that hasn’t done anything like this before is suddenly labeled a psychopath by his teacher because he is trying everything in his power to get out of there. What really makes me sad is he begged to go to “big kids school” for almost a year before he started. He had been dreaming of it for so long and I remember sitting down with the teacher at the beginning of school and thinking “oh no” that she was not a good fit for him and this might not go so well. I thought he would be unruly for her but NEVER violent. I can’t change things for him at school. I can just be a loving place for him at home. Make sure he talks about his choices at school and try to move on. This part of parenting sucks. When they have to learn to be outside of your zone. If they never really learn this the rest of life will be hard. I don’t want that for him.

As all of this is going down, the endless estimates and contractors and Alex making himself seen in our large busy family, I am also planning a trip to Iceland to see my family for Christmas. We won’t be there for long so I’m trying to introduce my boys to all of the different families on a one on one basis. This takes planning. I also have to make sure that I have all the outdoor clothing we will need for all 4 of them. Good shoes for all kinds of weather and that I make time for friends and us too with out hurting too many feelings.

Like I said at the beginning of the post, most of my music is good music that I love to dance to, finally getting the house done the way I like it and money not really hindering that, but I find myself stumbling through the techno noise and feeling like I am failing in ways along the way, when I am navigating the parenting outside of my control zone, watching my child not thrive and knowing that he needs to learn to be without me and I will not always be able to pick and chose his caretakers or bosses along the way. I hate that he is learning this so early. He is only 5. But also sheltering him even longer might not be helpful either.

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Monday Knitting Update- Things I want to CO and UFO´s

Today I would like to share with you some of the things I really want to knit. I’m on a project diet. I’m finishing things that I started or frogging things that I never intend to finish. So before I get to start a new project I have to finish three.

Let me start by sharing what I really want to CO at the moment.

Photo from the pattern

These are from the Purl bee blog and are Little Cable Knee Highs. I can’t afford the $66 dollar yarn that is suggested for these but I do have some yarn that I could use. Not a nice grey like these but it would work for house socks in pink and purple.

Photo from the pattern

I also really want to make these Borough mitts from knitty for my man and for me. I do have some nice Ecological wool to make these and also some Icelandic wool.

Photo from the pattern

I really want to make this ZZZ-Jumpsuit from Pickles for Alexander this winter using some of the cotton I have from knit picks.

Here are the things I’m trying to finish to get to start one of these.

Snowbird cardigan

Azulejos Shawl test knit

O´s Christmas Stocking

Added this to show you what O, my 4 year old, is working on. He wanted to try to cross stitch.

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Monday Knitting Update.

So had a busy knitting week. I knit a whole sweater in 3 days! It´s for my 2 year old but still. I knit Langstroth in the smallest size. I still need to weave in the ends and sew the armpits and block it but I liked the sweater. It kept me from being bored while knitting but not so integrate that I couldn´t watch something while knitting. I did make a slight boo boo. I did knit the pattern for the next size up so it is off center a bit. But I think my 2 year old can deal with it. I´ll just not make the same mistake with my oldest´s sweater. Almost tempted to make one in sock yarn for the bellydweller and make it  a button up or a full body suit. Let´s see how much I can actually get done before this baby pops out.

I also knit a little on the square Feel and See blanket.

I know I had told myself that I wouldn´t start a new project until I had finished at least 2 of my current projects but I couldn´t help myself with this sweater.

I also organized my unfinished projects a little and found a few of my designs that I was in the middle of designing and hadn´t finished. I guess I better start back on those.

I´m in full force training mode for the Ravelympics and after knitting that sweater for my little man in only 3 days I believe that I will be able to finish Snowbird in 17 days. But before I can start on another project I have to finish something else that I have started and not finished yet. What to pick though?

How are you training for the Ravelympics?

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Knitting Update-Malabrigo Superwash

Still have this Dos Superwash yarn from Malabrigo and trying to figure out what to do with it. It is sport weight. What would you do with it?

Maybe the Offset Wraplan by Sara Morris For my little boy?

Anybody have any other ideas it is a sport/DK weight yarn? I might just design something.

I haven´t knit anything this week. I was out of town all weekend and wasn´t feeling well during the week. Plus I ended up reading 3 books in one week which has NEVER happened before. Got hooked on the Fifty Shades of Grey Trilogy. Those books need to come with a warning that if you start you can´t stop.

Here is hoping for a better knitting week.

What are you knitting?

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Monday Knitting Update

My first photo is of Pebbles which is knit with some of my leftover O-Wool from my itty bitty toys. This is my go to pattern as a gift for expecting friends and family. I believe that I don´t have enough yarn to finish this though. We will see what I decide to do. Maybe the top will be a different color. But I don´t know.

Trying to make Saartjes Booties for the first time. I think I might rip them because they are for a boy and I don´t think they look very boyish.  I like the yarn though. It´s Gloss by Knit Picks.

Knitting this faraway, so close from the same yarn that I designed my iPad Cozy from. I really love the yarn. It´s just so soft and the colors are so pretty. It´s called Plymouth Yarn-Kudo in color 47.  I believe that I´m a skein short though. I´ll have to order another.  It´s cotton silk blend and just such a treat to work with. Can´t wait to finish and block this and wrap it around myself.
What are you crafting at the moment or looking forward to start?

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Itty-Bitty Update.

I have been very busy these last few days.

 
We are still art journaling. O loves paint! I love his art!

 
M has been sick and just wanted to be held but I tried to get as much done on the needles as possible. Mom has been a God send.

 
I finished the hippo. Will go into the details when I do the yarn giveaway with this one.

 
Finally finished the Cedar Leaf Shawlette. I did some modifications. I cast on fewer stitches because I didn´t have a long enough tail to do the cast on and since I was doing this for the 3rd time I was not going to pull it and cast on again so I just added the stitches in the second row. Then there were a fewer garterstitch rows by 2. Then I had 2 fewer short rows and then I finally had enough yarn to finish. I still need to block it and then I will say what I think about it. Right now I´m just happy that I´m done for the 3rd time.

 
I finished the Big Montana Tunic and now it needs to be blocked. I enjoyed the knit using double Cascade Ecological. It was cheep at 30 dollars for all the yarn I needed for this.

 
This is the Icelandic Sweater Vetur that I was making for hubby but he didn´t like the wool so that I am know knitting it for me.

 
Working right along on my Tea Leaf Cardigan with my own hand dyed yarn.

 
Then now I am trying something new for me which is the White Witch Mitts 2 at a time using the magic loop method. It´s a mess but a learning experience. It´s getting colder here and I´m going to start to need them on my walk to O´s preschool 3 mornings a week.